Category: the Rant Board
Ok, my parents are never borrowing money from me again. they have the
nerve to ask me to "lend" them some money, and I never see it again. now,
they're acting like brats because I won't give them another cent. they already
owe me $60 that I may see by February 33 of next year. not, another, nickel!
$60? That's it? I was sure you were going to say hundreds.
I'm more concerned with where febuary 33 came from.
lol
I'm more concerned with why a parent would borrow $50, and why that small amount would matter after all the money they've spent to cover your expenses over 18 years?
Smile.
But, that's just me.
I agree with you Wayne, if the parents did give good support indeed. Do you know for sure that they did or are you making an assumption? As a matter of fact, I don't lend any more money than I'm willing to give away. Most of the time $60 is not going to make or break me. But that's jus me. So I would just mark it up as a gift and not lend any to them in the future if it bothers you this much. Smile.
$60 is boing to break me. Just think of all the Starbucks, and cold beers I'll be short. Can't have that.
Laughing.
I see both sides of this one.
On the one hand, if you lent someone money expecting reasonably to get it back - either because you asked for it or because they said they'd give it back - and then it didn't happen...okay, that's kind of a jerk move. Sixty bucks isn't a crapton of money, so it shouldn't make or break, but if it's that big a deal, just don't lend any more. That's fair enough.
On the other hand, it's your parents. they have spent literally thousands of dollars on you over the years, making sure you didn't just get the absolute bare-bones essentials for survival. I mean, they could've made you sleep on a mat on the floor, eat gruel, and wear ragged clothing just substantial enough to stop you from freezing to death. They presumably didn't do this, because they're (also presumably) good parents who care about you at least to some extent. They probably did nice things for your birthday, bought you Christmas presents, went out of their way to do and get things you enjoy, and those things cost money. They've also committed to changing their lives to suit you, in a very big way. Even if you weren't planned, and even if your parents weren't particularly good parents, they did this, because they had to. And hopefully they didn't yowl about it too much. With all that being said, to quibble about sixty bucks might indeed seem a little ungrateful.
At different times in my adult life, I've had both parents need my help. It didn't happen too often - one more than the other, mind you - but I was bighearted, and always tried to help where I could. With one of them, it got abused a bit. With the other, I never had an issue. With the not-so-good one, I eventually just put my foot down and said "no more", and that was that. We talked it out like adults, and eventually we fixed things up, too. If that parent needed help again, I'd probably agree, but I'd make sure we had terms first, that's all.
So next time this happens, if it does happen again, know your terms. Were you promised the money back directly, or did you just assume it was going to come back? If it's the former, then you can stand up and say something. If it's the latter, take it on the chin. All the good things you've gotten in your life from your parents certainlly amount to more than sixty dollars.
With friends like Joan and Steve, $60 is mere pocket change.
/Grin.
Well said Wayne, on your first post.
with friends like Joan and Steve, i'll be asking $60,000,000 instead of $60. *smurk*
Steeve shmeev
whoa whoa whoa! Jerky parents? well, I don't see it a problem. The money borrowing I mean. My mom barrows money from me and I know she needs it more then I. She's big on making me independent but at the same time, the money lending is because she doesn't work. So, either I or dad give her the money so she could go buy clothing, pay her phone, ect. So in short Katie, think of it more of just helping and not worrying about the money. money comes and goes. but your parents don't.
hahahaha! you guys with the Joan and steve stuff! so true though! Yeah,
february 33? hmm.... which month has 33 days? the longest I've seen is 31.
and february has 29 at most. hahaha!
I can relate though Elsa I've stopped counting owing money anymore, that was
a long time ago, I just don't lend them anymore, or I bother them to the ends
of the earth with giving me the money back and it's rare I'll lend them anything.
I'll buy them stuff but I usually don't have money to lend anyway. If it's 20
dollars it's like okay now give it back. usually I say no.
your parents raised you, funded you, and you want 60 dollars from them back? I have a question. were you born after 2000? because if so, that explains things.
Indeed. Sure it's a stereotype but it happens to be true.
hahahahaha! Chris!
Yeah, it's more about principle with me. I don't think the nature of this is quite
that though.